Emotional pain feels real! When we are in it everything about it feels real. We sometimes even experience it as physical pain. It takes us over and stops us from functioning. Sometimes we experience it in our gut, and at other times it is a whole body experience. It makes us obsess! It can make our blood boil! It can cause us to shrivel and hide! Emotional pain creates desperation within us and all we want is for the feelings to go away.
Emotional pain always means I am out of balance with life! I am not in alignment with what is!
Maybe it is a symptom that things aren't right. Maybe it's a sign that we need to set some boundaries, that we have let someone walk all over us. Maybe it's a signal that we gave too much and need to give to our self instead. Maybe it's a signal that we have been pretending things are one way when in actual fact they are the opposite. Maybe we are out of control and need to start taking control of our self instead of trying to control the world. Maybe we are in grief or we have been wronged. Whatever it is, there is a solution.
Tell the Truth!
Think about the limits you need to set. Make the decision to value yourself. Learn how to give to yourself and make you a top priority in your life. Be real, if someone in your life doesn't like who you are, that's great....you can leave them and go find all the people who do like you just as you are! Tell yourself the Truth in a gentle, loving, life affirming way - are you eating too much? spending too much? smoke, drink too much? Is it time to take control of yourself and start connecting with what you really need rather than filling yourself with substitutes for love? Do you need to feel, I mean really feel your grief and move on from feeling sorry for yourself and the loss you have suffered. Is it time to see it as an experience rather than seeing yourself as a victim of the loss?
Whatever the emotional pain, the Truth will set you free of it. Once you tell yourself the Truth you can make better choices and the pain will go away all by itself. It's amazing how much freedom there is in the Truth.
In love & light,